03 November 2011

Adages are Often True

You know that adage about judging a book by its cover? Well, I realized the other day that I am guilty of that. Not often, I don't think, but in this one particular case, woo-ee, I was bad.

You see, there is this girl I see once or twice a day. She and her husband, how do I put this nicely, have an odor about them. It's pretty bad.

Billy and I have talked about the odor before and are pretty sure the couple isn't well off. But still, hygiene? That has to rank up there with life's essentials.

Well, my paths crossed with this woman in a more direct way a few weeks ago. I now see - and talk with her - weekly. In the setting that I see her, I've come to realize that wow! this girl is talented. I've also decided that this girl is holding herself back. Clean her up a bit and I think she could really impress some people with her talent.

So, how to I approach this? As her professional mentor, I think I should talk with her. The handbook I follow says I should talk with her. But, how?

Lessons this girl has taught me: don't judge a book by its cover. Everyone, yes everyone, has something to offer the world. Also, no one ever really knows what is going on in someone else's life. There are circumstances and experiences afloat that a lot of us can't even begin to understand. Third, sometimes doing the right thing is hard, but that's probably a sign that you need to do it.


Sassytimes said...

How amazing to find such treasure in someone that you once (sort of) wrote of. That's pretty tricky though to tell her to clean herself up in a nice way without making her feel criticized. Maybe focus on the positive and try to direct her to a way where she can highlight herself with her hygiene?

Good luck!

Wendy said...

How true. I struggle with this all the time, of making quick judgments.